I am conditioning myself in a manner that has already relieved much of my suffering. It is a Buddhist practice; a disavowing of the clinging ego that pains through its false, imposed needs which we cling to and, as they cannot be held tightly and controlled, must thereby pain us when they slip from our grasp.
Whenever I feel a need for power or control, or resent others in any envious way, or find myself engaging in self-reflection and self-definition, or engaging in any similar thought or entertaining a paralleling feeling, I have learned to recognize it as an extension of my ego; my false, small self. When this occurs I simply acknowledge it and turn away from it, letting it, and the futile, destructive, painful dwelling within it, go. This is especially true for those whom, like me, are prone to obsessively ruminating upon such thoughts and feelings, to becoming lost within and bound by them, by the egotistic imposition, spinning within them seemingly without end, continually building the pain. Let go. Stop resisting. Recognize the attempt of the ego to control your thoughts and actions and turn it away.